Should I stay married or get divorced?

My husband and I have been married for 18 years . Not without problems but its been good. He's a good man and treats me better than most women get treated, but One day I looked in the mirror and I saw so much gray hair and lots of wrinkles and I realized that I was getting old. I'm 43. I lost 30 pounds , dyed my hair, and starting dressing a little sexier.

To make me feel better not for someone else. He's always been a little jealous, but now he comes to my work every day and just pops in as if he's trying to catch me at something. I don't even get to be home alone. I have asked for some time alone and he says ok but he never delivers. He accused me of having an affair, and I keep asking him" When". I come straight home from work and he goes everywhere else with me. I just kept trying to reassure him, but now he has went to my job and called my boss out to the parking lot and embarrassed me in front of everyone I work with, because he thinks I'm having an affair.

Should I stay married or get divorced?

If you are asking whether you should get a divorce over this than you should. You should perhaps never think about getting married again. This is very trivial and easy to take care of by simply talking to the moron. If you can not convince him with words, start having sex with him every night to prove it to him.

Should I stay married or get divorced?

Call me.

Should I stay married or get divorced?

There is nothing worse than a jealous, possesive man. Make sure you tell him exactly how his actions are bothering you. And make sure that you re-assure him that you are not having an affair.

Should I stay married or get divorced?

Unfortunately a huge tip off of an affair is drastic changes in ones appearance,and since he is already a jealous man it's given him reason to go nuts. Have you two go out together with you all dressed up? Make time to show him you want no one but him?

No time?...you would be amazed, when there is a well there is a way to have an affair. Cheaters will always make time.

Should I stay married or get divorced?

After 18 years he can not trust you?? Somebody is insecure. You need to have a sit down, heart to heart with him and explain that what you did you did for you and no one else.

Should I stay married or get divorced?

your husband has become insecure because you are taking care of yourself. i have a friend who told her husband she needs space, her husband became insecure and kept going with her wherever she goes. however he doesnt accuse her of having an affair. i think you should sit your husband down and have a serious talk with him. in the end, if you get tired of his actions and decide to divorce, then at least he will know it was him who caused it

Should I stay married or get divorced?

Alright i would suggest that you go to a Councilor and talk about how your husband is always in your buisness. I belive if you love this guy still you set up a appoinment with a marrige Councilor and tell him how you feel. I hope this helps you out.

~Monkey

Should I stay married or get divorced?

Please, reassure him now, that you did what you did to make you feel better about yourself, not to attract attention from other men.

I know us males can be 'dickheads' at times but with a bit of honest reassurance and possibly a 'heap' more 'loving' we can be persuaded to stop being dickheads!

Good on you for making yourself feel better, most women wouldn't and don't bother trying to look good for themselves or for their husbands! Give yourself a huge 'Pat on the back'!

Should I stay married or get divorced?

If he has a jealousy issues you should talk to him...tell him if he won't stop you would leave him...try to make him feel better and call him often and you should be a little bit happy because he still loves you after 18 years...

Should I stay married or get divorced?

It sounds like he has some insecurity issues. Before you contemplate divorce, think about what you really want. Your feeling good, and he's bringing you down. He has no right to prevent you from having time to yourself or making crazy accusations when clearly nothing is going on. You should have a serious talk with him and explain what he is doing and how he is pushing you away. Maybe he will understand and you can save your relationship. 18 years is a long time. If this doesn't work, maybe divorce is the answer.

Should I stay married or get divorced?

DIVORCE, if this continues get a divorce because if it continues then your pretty much gonna have no friends, no job, and no GIRLS NIGHT! THIS IS BAD SO YOU BETTER TALK TO HIM RIGHT AWAY!!!

Should I stay married or get divorced?

Remember your unique and wise in your own way. He needs your help and love to overcome that jealously . If you don't give him any reason for him to get upset: Where is the trust in both of you ?Do you go out once a week only you and your husband or are you giving the attention at work to someone else? My opinion is to both you to stay married and to look what changes both of you need to make to be a better couple

because you as the woman have to make the paradise that you want to have in your family. God Bless you!

Should I stay married or get divorced?

You do know that what you did by dying your hair losing 30 lbs and dressing sexier you did this to yourself. Everything you did is on the cheaters list in fact the three things you did are on the very top of the list it's just a shame that you have a jealous husband. It sounds like your husband has cheated on you and that's why he is so worried about you cheating.I know you are saying my husband would never cheat on me,hate to say this but that's what we all said before we learned of our husbands cheating on us. I myself know i had the best husband in the world and we had a great sex life i never said no to him and we did it as long as he wanted and what ever he wanted. Hot meals on the table waiting for him when he walked in the house every single night. I kept a very clean house and washed and ironed all his clothes no cleaners. If my husband cheated on me i am now convened that 90% of husbands cheat.

Should I stay married or get divorced?

I'm glad you did this for yourself. You feel much better after losing some pounds. I know i do. I'm single though... but your husband is just jealous thinking you did it for someone else, he will get over it. Continue to eat healthy food.. Way To Go Girl!!! So proud of you.